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“‘You place boundaries in place to guard the connection. This implies maintaining folks at a distance the place you’ll be able to nonetheless love them, and no nearer.’ Alleviated lots of guilt about pushing my household away. I’m able to love them nonetheless as a result of they don’t seem to be on prime of me like they was. Any nearer and I’ll develop to resent them.”
“Additionally true of romantic relationships. If I can inform that somebody being my romantic associate erodes the connection between us, and reparation would not work, then I break up. I’ve discovered that my breakups are a lot much less messy, and it is a lot simpler to transition to friendship than once I dragged it out due to guilt or a way of responsibility.”