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“‘Little deal with’ mentality. AKA ‘I am alive, I made it by means of the day, so I need to do one thing I do know is not good for me like I am Pavlov-ing myself for present.’ I am not saying by no means to indulge, however there’s this mentality of ‘permitting’ your self one second of enjoyment in change for an extended time of struggling that’s actually poisonous in the long term. You do not ‘earn’ your rewards. Every thing you do is a alternative. If you need a cookie, eat a cookie. However do not do it as a reward for making a troublesome cellphone name. You need to skip the gymnasium since you do not feel good, skip the gymnasium — however do not do it since you ‘earned’ the proper to lie in mattress and decay as an alternative of doing one thing that can really feel higher in the long term.”
“Completely!! It is nearly taking the MORALITY out of selecting to deal with myself properly. I do not ‘earn’ relaxation by doing terrible issues. I do not ‘earn’ chocolate by consuming my broccoli. I am a grown grownup, and I make the alternatives I resolve to make.”